T for Two

TsignMany positions that allow a wife to feel her husband’s power do not allow husband and wife to be face to face.  Yet, there is something about the security, trust and knowing expressed when a wife can look her husband eye to eye as he shares his passion.

The “T” position starts with the wife lying on her back with her bottom on the edge of the bed.  (There is an obvious opportunity for OB/GYN parallels here, but don’t go there unless you want all sex appeal to be lost.)  The husband stands at the edge of the bed and aligns his pelvis with hers. Together, their bodies make a “T” shape.  Pillows and wedges come in handy to prop up her hips if needed or he can stand on a stool or bend his knees to match their heights.

Visually, this position is a winner for husbands.  Not only does he get a view of his wife’s body, but he can also see his manhood in action.  The wife can use her hands to touch her breasts, manually stimulate her clitoris or whatever else may be tantalizing for the duo.  With some simple adjusts, such as him leaning back or switching the angle of her hips, G-spot stimulation is pretty easy to achieve as well.

Since the distance between spouses doesn’t allow for easy kissing, the husband and wife can use their mouths to speak arousing and connecting words.  She can describe his power and what she appreciates about his physique.  He can compliment the unique beauty of her body, suggest what he’d like to see her do with her hands, or describe how it feels to be inside her.

And don’t forget the eyes – the power of this position!  Locked eye contact ensures the undeniable presence of both spouses being fully engaged in every second of the encounter.

It’s important for husbands to consider that some women can feel un-grounded – and thereby distracted and unable to be fully present in the action – if their legs are not secured.  Instead of leaving them dangling, drape her legs over his shoulder, prop her feet flat on his torso with her knees bent, wrap his arms around her knees holding them against his chest or bend her legs around his body so that her feet interlock or rest on his back.

Another great attribute of the “T” position is that spouses can move the action from the edge of bed, to the edge of a table, a counter or other flat surface.  “T” time anyone?


Lazy 69

The traditional 69 position of woman on top, mouth to genitals,  can be challenging to wives for several reasons:

  • it takes a lot of arm strength to hold up her body – especially if she wants to get another hand involved in the action
  • it is hard to stay under the covers on a cold night
  • it can feel as if her rear is literally right in front of her husbands eyes
  • there are few physical points of connection other than mouths on genitals

So here is another position that provides simultaneous oral pleasure, is relaxing for both husband and wife, and provides  loads of skin to skin connection.

The Lazy 69

Align your bodies similar to the traditional 69 position but instead, both of you lay on your side in a gently curled up position. The wife will need to gently spread her legs apart so that the husband can rest his clean shaven cheek on her inner thigh. The wife can either rest her head on the mattress or on a small pillow. Both husband and wife can gently pull the other closer for more intimate contact. In this relaxed position it is easy to stay warm under the covers. Hands can freely be used to stroke, caress  or grasp. If the wife wants more access to his testicles or perineum, she can gently spread his legs.  Bodies can be pulled even closer to gain further access or just to meld bodies together as pleasure mounts.

Take all the time in the world as you explore and enjoy 

The Lazy 69

Ruth Buezis

Side Winder

side-winderI don’t know if you have noticed or not, but most sexual positions involve connection with the front or back of our body, but few focus on our sides. Even if we are spooning and laying on our side, it is still the front of one body meshing with the back of another. But the sides of our body contains an enormous number of nerves. So  here is a totally different position that could be used during foreplay, breast play or outer play.


The Side Winder

First, I am just going to say that this position works best when you are both completely naked. When a wife is feeling a little insecure or maybe just wants to play coy, she can curl loosely on her side with her eyes looking down or closed. A gentle but confident husband can approach her to warm her up and draw her  out by straddling her body while on his knees.

Sorry but I have to interject here – it is super sexy when a husband does not get bent out of shape by our insecurities, but instead has the confidence to gently draw us out of our shell. It is as if he is saying, “I’ve got you. I will take all the time you need. You are sexy even in your sultriness. You are totally worth it.” It is not that he demands it, but he takes a step back, and loves her right where she is at, and then he takes her hand and leads her to a wide open meadow.

Back to business – While he straddles her side, he can slowly work his way up her body and enjoy the amazing curves of her thighs, hips and waist. He can view the marvelous profile of her breasts cascading across her chest and gently trace their lines. With his hands he can lightly trace her curves, especially the transition from one curve to another. As he begins to become aroused, he can gently drag his penis or testicles along her side. He can use his hands on her breasts  while gently stroking himself on her side. He can run his hands through her hair and nibble her neck. He can fully take her in visually from a new angle and position.

The wife can relax and just focus on the sense of touch or she can tap into visual arousal by peeking at his enjoyment. Laying on her side with her thighs together she can generate heat by flexing her kegel muscles and enjoy the eroticism of a husband visually enjoying her from a safer place.

Something new, a different angle, gentleness, strength, playing coy and delicious

The Side Winder

Ruth Buezis